I see posts like this floating round all the time, and so I decided to read the entire archive of my ‘personal’ tumblr for a laugh to see if I had anything I would tell my 16 year old self. Needless to say, I’ve got a LOT of things I’d like to say to her. Here’s 16 things I’d like to tell my 16 year old self to stop her from being a whiny little bitch.
1. Stop chasing the wrong guy. Or any guy for that matter. Be happy being single!
You won’t get your first boyfriend until you’re eighteen, and you know what? It doesn’t matter. Relationships aren’t everything – what would you even do with a boyfriend right now? You’ve got more important things to worry about!
2. Stop stressing so much about school.
It isn’t worth it. You know you’ll pass all your GCSEs, and that’s all that really matters! Also, don’t listen to Amy at your college interview and take Sociology like you want to. History sucks.
3. Don’t drink too much.
Okay, mum says that every time you go out, but seriously. Learn to talk to people without being drunk, guys don’t like you because you’re chatty, they like you cos you’re easy.
4. Stay in contact with your friends.
The girls you’re seeing less and less of now, you’ll still class them as your friends in four years time when you’ve all moved to university, but if you don’t see them now and they live round the corner, how do you expect to see them when you’re all spread over the country?
5. Cherish your grandparents.
Soon enough, Gran’s going to be left on her own and you’ll be angry and confused, but it’s okay. She’ll manage, and you’ll grow closer with her than you ever thought possible.
6. Don’t invite that guy you like to your friends’ party next year.
It might end how you hoped, but ultimately it’ll end in tears. You can do better than him; and you will.
7. After said tears, you’ll meet someone else but you’ll never know how he feels about you.
Tell him how you feel about him. He doesn’t live to see his twentieth birthday, and even though you’ll be in a really great relationship with someone else by then, you’ll always have unanswered questions. If you don’t tell him how you feel (which you won’t cos you’re still pretty shy) at least don’t be rude to him the last time you speak to him. Guilt ain’t fun.
8. Take the McDonald’s job.
It’ll be the best confidence boost you’ve ever had, and you’ll meet some of the best people ever (see points 6 and 7) but you’ll also earn loads of money which will make you feel FAB.
9. Throw a New Year’s Eve party in 2012. Invite boys. But for God’s sake tell your mum.
We both know you’re a shit liar. Somehow, she only finds out about said party when Sam tells her two years later, but it will save you a whole lot of worrying to just tell her beforehand.
10. Stay interested in photography.
You’re good at it, but you can’t get any better if you don’t practice. You’ll regret not investing more time into trying to be better at it.
11. Enjoy your summer.
The summer of 2011 will be one of the best summers of your life – enjoy it while you can. And yes, you might be apprehensive about starting college, but it’s not worth stressing over. You’ll make some new friends and be so much happier than you thought when September comes around!
12. Do your own hair for prom.
Yes, your hairdresser is one of the loveliest people ever, but you won’t be happy with your hair at the time, or indeed four years later looking back at the pictures. Also, hold your shoulders back. Mum isn’t trying to be a bitch, it does make you look awkward as fuck.
13. Read more books.
You love reading but you spend so much time on the internet that you claim you ‘don’t have time’. You do, make time.
14. Admit you hate the handprint wall. Yes it’s kinda cool, but you’re over it.
Dad will try and sand it down, but sand it down for longer than he does because the lumpy purple wall you’re gonna have for the next few years is not pretty.
15. Stop moaning about your life on Tumblr. It’s cringey.
If not for you at the time, for you when you’re twenty. STOP IT. You are a strong independent woman.
16. It’s okay to make mistakes.
These lists are lovely, but ultimately you can’t change the past and I’m a firm believer in the fact that if none of these things had happened I wouldn’t be the person I am today, able to give this advice. So make mistakes, and live your life how you want to do it. I promise I won’t hate you.
Do you wish you’d told yourself any of these things, or did I just do too much worrying in my teenage years!?