My initial big plan for leaving uni, was to get a job back at NCS in a different role to last year for the summer, effectively giving me until September to find a ‘real’, paid, graduate job. What could possibly go wrong? I’d worked for NCS before, aced the interview before, and I knew exactly what the role I applied for required. I had da skillz. Except I didn’t. I didn’t get past the first interview and I experienced proper failure for the first time. I cried a lot, and kept hoping that they might send another email explaining their mistake and offering me a job. Needless to say they didn’t.
Since then, I’ve received multiple rejections; some from jobs I wasn’t too fussed about, but two in particular that I really wanted. I’ve had to put on that brave face a few times now, and I thought I’d share how I deal with failure for those of you finding yourself in a similar position.
Don’t take it personally
This is so difficult, but nine times out of ten, rejecting you won’t be a personal decision. This time, the role was better suited to somebody else, which says more about them than it does about you.
Give yourself some time to get back at it
This one is more for when you’ve reached the final stages with your heart set on the perfect job than times when you don’t even make it to interview. However, it’s important to give yourself some time to reflect on why you didn’t get the job and use any advice you’ve been given to better yourself before you apply for another role. That said, don’t use this step as an excuse for not searching for jobs. A week should be more than enough time to collect your thoughts and get back in the game.
Talk about it
It might be hard for you to admit you failed at something, but sometimes talking it through with someone outside of the situation can help you wrap your head around it. They might be able to offer you some advice you hadn’t even thought of, or they might just be a comforting shoulder when you’re having a little bitch about the company that clearly missed out.
Be gracious in defeat
Whether you’re rejected in person, over on the phone, or via email, be pleasant. Thank them for their time and if appropriate ask what you could have done to improve. For me, knowing why I didn’t get a job is much better for my peace of mind. Not knowing is the kind of thing that keeps me up at night wondering what I could have done better – so don’t be afraid to ask! If you don’t feel like doing it right away, you could always send a follow up email a little later on.
These tips are mostly for jobs (obviously) but I’m sure they can be applied to other things too! Job hunting is no easy feat, and for those of you who have already secured yourself a job – congratulations! Those of you who are struggling along with me, we got this.
Let me know how you deal with failure/rejection, do you take it in your stride or do you struggle to move on?